I’ve definitely quoted from this book before (“Raising Kids for True Greatness” by Dr. Tim Kimmel) but wanted to share a passage on abundant thinking that I re-read this week:
“There is an inseparable connection between raising kids for greatness and thinking abundantly…true greatness is a passionate love for God that shows itself in an unquenchable love and concern for people. It is based in grace. Its attitudes are humility and gratefulness. Its actions are generosity and a servant attitude.
Overriding the entire formula is a commitment to abundant thinking. It’s living large by thinking big. Parents who embody God’s spirit of abundance in the way they treat each other, their kids, and everyone they encounter create one of the best environments for preparing kids for greatness in every dimension of their adult lives….
…People who think abundantly are enjoyable to be around, fun to work with, and usually easier to look at, regardless of their physical attributes. Because fear doesn’t hold them in its grip and they view anxiety as something to master rather than something to be mastered by, they tend to show a lot less age on their faces. They’re happy, positive people who maintain a generous attitude towards life. Kids who grow up around mothers and fathers who smile a lot, cheer a lot, sing a lot, dance a lot, dream a lot, and laugh a lot find it much easier to embrace a similar attitude when they become adults.”
There is an opposite attitude that is far more pervasive and is no respecter of persons…I like to refer to this mind-set as “scarcity thinking.” It’s everywhere. You hear it in how people talk, you sense it in the way they pray, and you see it in how they view the people close to them. It shows in how they appraise strangers, how they manage their time, and how they view their possessions.
And it is toxic beyond belief….It limits love, it blunts potential, and it robs people of hope. Scarcity thinkers steal joy and pollute grace. And here’s the kicker: scarcity thinkers are usually the last ones to see their problem.”
I’ve been guilty of quite a few “scarcity thinking” moments this week. I’m sure we all have. Just for laughs, I’ll let you all in on Shepherd My Child’s issue for this week. On Monday, fresh off our vacation, I was so excited to announce the winners of the free “God Made Me” cards and get them online and available for purchase. So, I announce the winners (meaning, I need to start making their cards), get the cards online and received four orders already (yippee! which means, I also need to make these cards as well), and um…well…we have no printer. Yup, that’s right – our printer died.
Six sets of cards need to be made – no printer. So, we finally get another printer purchased and ready to go and in the lamination process, Office Max totally botched up some of the cards. Completely not use-able. Which would be no big deal if all I had to do was print the cards, but these cards not only have to be printed, but also cut, pasted together, etc…it’s a time-consuming process (seriously, for those of you who have already purchased the cards I promise you the price you are paying is a steal for the time put into them!) Oh, and not to mention, I paid for the botched set of cards because the lady put them in the back of the set so I didn’t realize until I got home that they were messed up! Waaa!
Argh! So, this week I’ve been thinking – was this really a good idea to offer these to people? Is it too time consuming? Am I in over my head? Then my sweet husband last night spent some time trying to re-format the cards (to make them print double-sided on our NEW printer which can now print double-sided!) so it’s half the work on me. That was some nice abundant thinking, hubbie. Then, today at the post office I delivered a set to the post office lady who had requested I make a set for her granddaughter (she saw the set when I was shipping one to someone else). I cannot tell you how wonderful she made me feel when she received the cards. “These are just B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L! I mean, I want to put them up for Christmas, but I just cannot wait! I think I’ll have to give them to her now!” She was so amazingly sweet about it and when I left she remarked, “I am going to be praying for you, honey. What you are doing is just wonderful. I’m going to be praying God will bless your work.” I don’t know if she could tell it had been a rough week or if she just really was that pleased to receive the cards, but it was just what I needed to hear. Then, this afternoon, I ran across the abundant thinking passage above again –
What’s the moral of the story? We don’t give God enough credit. Maybe, just maybe – he’s got bigger plans for Shepherd My Child than I did…starting with a new printer that can print double-sided.
What about each of you? Has it been an “abundant thinking” week for you, or a “scarcity thinking” week? Let’s work on thinking abundantly together so we can point our young ones in the right direction!